How to Meditate—build your Wisdom Well
LEARN TO MEDITATE + MEDITATION PRACTICE
Learn how to meditate using the Wisdom Well Way meditation practice from Colleen-Joy
The meditation style I teach, called the Wisdom Well Way, is designed to help you access clear inner wisdom even in times of stress, struggle and suffering.
Isn’t it true that when we need intuitive guidance the most, it can seem impossible to find? We feel directionless and vulnerable when we long for inner peace and strength.
If you’ve ever tried to still a busy mind or set aside a heavy heart to meditate, you may have given up thinking “meditation is too difficult.”
Wisdom Well Way meditation doesn’t ask you to still your mind or set aside emotions—we have a different approach.
I want you to bring your busy mind and feelings to your Wisdom Well meditation to include them fully.
By doing this—like bringing water to the surface of a well—you can let your inner wisdom transform your inner obstacles and grow the garden of an enlightened life.
Here is my 4 Step Wisdom Well Meditation Method to help you learn to meditate—for inner wisdom
Sign up for my free Wisdom Well Way mindfulness mediation how-to guide here with guided meditations for each step.
- Your Wisdom Well meditation can be as short as 5 minutes or as long as a few hours.
- You might want to treat yourself to a short home retreat and spend a few hours meditating.
- Why not meditate in the morning, or take a break in the day to tune-in to your wisdom?
If you’re an aspiring master coach, you may want to learn this meditation method to guide your clients by helping them to build their Wisdom Well, transform their inner obstacles and find their inner wealth.
As you learn to meditate for inner wisdom experiment with this meditation guide to find what works for you.
On some days you might need to include journaling to deepen your intuitive insights.
On other days, you might be able to close your eyes in meditation following the 4th steps and easily welcome your words of wisdom.
Picture a beautiful Wisdom Well
On the surface is dry sand and rocks representing our surface mind and inner obstacles like procrastination, resistance, fear, shame, irritation – our busy minds and heavy hearts.
When we meditate to seek answers, we often make this mistake:
We focus our attention on the part of the mind that asks the question.
But the part of the mind that asks the question doesn’t have the answer.
Makes sense right?
When your mind is asking a question, seeking solutions, making a decision, or trying to understand spiritual reality for yourself—the question arises from the surface mind.
When you meditate and take attention to the question, you’re dragging your bucket through the sand, trying to get answers from the part of the mind that’s asking.
All the while, just a little bit deeper than the surface mind is the crystal clear water of your inner wisdom waiting for you to break through those rocks and send a strong bucket down to find.
Learn to Meditate by changing intuitive radio stations
Another helpful metaphor for teaching Wisdom Well online classes is simply to think of this as learning to change intuitive radio stations.
Wherever we place our attention determines what we’re tuned into intuitively.
Your attention is likely on surface thoughts most of the day. Perhaps you don’t know it’s possible to consciously change radio stations. Or your intuition feels blocked when stressed or suffering.
A busy mind or heavy heart might feel like a barrier, but the good news is they can be brought to your Wisdom Well meditation – in fact, even our most hectic feelings and thoughts are welcomed to this meditation practice.
By learning these simple four meditation steps, you can build your Wisdom Well and make this meditation practice a part of your life.
You might want to meditate more formally, setting aside dedicated time for your meditation, perhaps lighting a candle and including mindful journaling.
I want you to easily use this mindfulness meditation in day-to-day life.
While working, when making decisions, when life coaching.
Even during difficult conversations, it’s possible to learn how to meditate to tune in deeper than the surface mind for instant inner guidance.
Step #1 DIG
In this first stage of the wisdom well meditation, it’s important to listen to your real thoughts and feelings.
- You might want to start your meditation in a very open style without a specific topic in mind, just to see what naturally arises.
- Or you might want to choose a topic as a focal point for your meditation. Either works.
Always start by paying attention to your honest thoughts and feelings.
Notice if you’re trying to be spiritual or good. Courageously open to the vulnerability of your honest experience.
It might help to journal your thoughts and feelings to give them a place of belonging.
What if you struggle to put feelings into words?
If you struggle to articulate thoughts and feelings, start small.
I teach my master coaches to start with whatever subtle or strong physical sensation they’re noticing.
- Beginning by asking yourself, “How do I honestly feel about this topic?”
- Also, get a felt sense of whether you feel more open or more closed when you think about the meditation focus topic.
- It also helps to ask yourself, “If this feeling was a body posture, what would that be?”
By getting in touch with our somatic (of the body) felt response to the mediation topic, we can translate thoughts and feelings into understanding.
I enjoy writing a Dear Wisdom Meditation Dialogue, where I start by sharing my thoughts and feelings in a journal style. I don’t hold back.
Step #2 ASK
Now it’s time to formulate a question to send into your Wisdom Well.
Think of your question as the bucket that you’re going to use to find inner wisdom.
Often, the only reason we can’t find intuitive wisdom, is because of using a small weak bucket.
When learning to meditate for wisdom, learn to ask enlightening empowering questions. This way you’ll learn to create strong buckets to bring you clear insight.
Use mostly open questions like what, how and why instead of closed questions (that force ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answers and severely limit the translation of wisdom.
My favorite Wisdom Well meditation questions to learn and use are:
- What is the deep truth?
- How does wisdom see this topic?
- What do I need to know?
I use these questions as ‘go to’ open questions, inviting intuitive wisdom into my meditation.
Step #3 OPEN
At this stage of your Wisdom Well meditation, you’re leaving the surface mind.
To do this, set your intention to tune in to wisdom, to change intuitive radio stations.
These intentions can help, perhaps say them or hold them in focus:
- “I’m open to intuitive ideas and guidance”
- “I’m letting myself know”
- “I want to see this through the eyes of wisdom”
It can help to write a letter back from wisdom to your surface thoughts like a dialogue of questions and answers.
Use your imagination to let your inner student dialogue with your inner teacher.
It’s natural to want to distinguish true intuitive wisdom from surface egoic mind.
And it’s important to remain discerning.
Here’s what I’ve discovered from more than 30 years of Wisdom Well meditation and teaching.
- We can never be 100% accurate went translating wisdom into words
- Wisdom is clear-seeing not knowledge, so we’re not looking for knowledge as much as we’re looking to see things clearly
- Translating this meditative seeing into words takes time to learn
- It helps to admit that there are no perfect words but to do our best anyway
How to distinguish ego from intuition?
- Knowing the translation of wisdom into words is fallible, look for words that cause peace and openness. This is a clue that we’ve translated wisdom more accurately with less distortion and interference from the ego
- We can ask whether our words-of-wisdom have helped us to claim wholeness, feel more equal-to our challenges, and helped us know we are equal-to all other beings
- If the words-of-wisdom reinforce our inner lack, encourage us to feel less-than our challenges or less-than our fellow souls this is a red flag for ego interference
- If the words-of-wisdom reinforce our masks, encourage us to force change in an unnatural way or feel better-than our fellow souls this is a red flag for ego interference
Trust yourself to be discerning, and give yourself time to learn to meditate, to open to intuition and become better at translating clear seeing into words-of-wisdom
Step #4 LIVE
For some of us, it’s not enough to get insights and “Aha!” moments from our meditations; we want to live what we see.
We want to draw on wisdom to nourish our souls and grow the garden of an enlightened life.
When you meditate using the Wisdom Well Way 4 Steps seek to incorporate your wisdom into your life as a mindfulness practice.
The more you live the wisdom you find in meditation, the more your meditation skills improve.
I hope that you find the many gifts that Wisdom Well Meditation has to offer.
Everything I’m grateful for in my life has been given to me because of these meditations.
I use Wisdom Well meditations almost daily for everything from helping me to transform in her obstacles like procrastination, to making life in business decisions, to guiding me through relationship challenges, and on my spiritual and personal growth path.
May these Wisdom Well meditations serve you.
Build Wisdom Wells for yourself and others guided by love, peace and joy.
With Love, Colleen-Joy
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