Is my Intuition right?
Sometimes it can be really difficult to tell whether our intuition is guiding us to avoid something, to close a door, to not follow a path or whether it’s just pure fear.
How can we tell if we should trust our intuition? You might ask “How do I know my intuition is right?”
Maybe it’s fear and not your intuition telling you to not move forward.
So in this is a tutorial I’m going to do my best to help you to understand the difference between anxiety, fear and intuition.
How you can discern whether it’s intuition or whether it is fear that’s guiding you.
Just for a moment, imagine that you are standing in front of a bridge…
You are about to cross this bridge and the bridge, of course, is a metaphor for whatever you’re experiencing right now…
… and you’re about to cross the bridge and suddenly you’re overcome with anxiety and fear and you’re asking yourself “Is this my fear or is this my intuition telling me not to cross the bridge?”
Now both could be true, right?
Is it my fear?
Because I’ve read stories about trolls and bridges and I’m now scared that under the bridge is this troll waiting for me?
Is it my conditioning?
Is it the fact that once when I was young there was a troll under the bridge and therefore I’m now scared of bridges.
Is it my Empath Intuition picking up others fear?
Is it because someone else had an experience on this bridge and somehow the song of that is still intuitively in play and I’m picking up on something that doesn’t even belong to me
Or is there actually something worth being frightened of?
Is there actually a troll under the bridge and my intuitions helping me to know that it’s not safe to travel over the bridge?
The first thing I want to emphasize is that fear itself does not indicate anything but fear.
It may or may not be true that there is something under that metaphorical bridge.
Fear contracts in the body.
Yes, fear causes a contraction in the body.
Fear and all of its similar sensations usually indicate, and you might have heard this before, that there is false evidence appearing real F-E-A-R.
There is a Vedantic story, a very famous non-dual teaching and fable about a man who is going to a well to drink water and he becomes frightened because he sees a snake at the well and he’s thirsty, but he now can’t go to the well to drink because of the snake.
Then the light changes because the sun moves and he realizes that in fact, it’s not a snake. It’s a rope.
And in this moment his fear is dissolved because the false evidence that was appearing to be real is now gone.
The rope is still the same rope, but his perception of the rope has changed.
Now, this is an important thing to bear in mind, but this is not to say that fear does not have a place in the world.
Think about what in my coaching work, I call a positive intention.
That everything has a P.I, that behind every behaviour is a, is a valid reason for the person behind the behaviour.
No matter how distorted that behaviour becomes.
So what is the positive intention of fear?
What’s the fear positive purpose?
And what kind of protection? It’s the protection of the body, right?
So it’s very physical. Fear is a biological, physical phenomenon.
Our bodies have innate fear instinct. And this is different to wisdom based intuition and intuitive inner guidance.
Now many chemical processes can actually induce fear.
If your hormones are out, sugar rushes and imbalances in the chemistry of the body can induce fear, so can loud noises, fatigued adrenals, etc.
That fear is actually a biological phenomenon, designed to help you to produce adrenaline so that you can run away from the troll under the bridge.
So it has a positive intention.
But how much of fear is actually unhelpful?
The fear that tells us not to touch hot stoves, the fear that tells us not to put our body in harm’s way is helpful. The fear that drives some adrenaline to help us to run from the troll, to run from the tiger and the lion is helpful.
That fear is helpful. It has value.
Somebody cuts you off in traffic and your heartbeats faster. That’s a valuable thing.
Your body is getting ready to do, take action, to help you, because life is in service to itself.
It is honouring itself, but what about the fear that’s beyond survival?
What about the fear of all the things our thoughts conspire to terrorize us with?
The nightmares, being frightened of what other people think about us, of imagined futures.
Being frightened of the wrong path, as if there is even a wrong path.
Is there a right path?
Here’s another teaching. I teach this in my intuition coaching courses.
When a river flows down from the top of a mountain, does the river start at that spring and ask the question, “What is the right way down?”
Does the river have a fear of hitting boulders and cliffs? No.
The river knows it will find a way because the river will flow around the obstacles.
The human mind with its ego and it’s fear and it’s mix of biological fear, is always trying to find the right way down the mountain.
And we mean by right is safe.
Safe from suffering, right? Safe from the suffering of all kind.
We’re trying to find a pain free path.
Wisdom shows us and life shows us, that there is no such thing as a pain-free path.
- There’s no such thing as a pain-free path to building a business.
- There is no such thing as a pain-free path in a relationship.
- There’s no such thing as a pain-free path in our families.
- There’s no such thing as a pain-free path for our health.
- There’s no such thing as a pain-free life.
The Buddhist teaching that life is indeed suffering might be something the ego doesn’t want to hear, but life has its obstacles.
It has its cliffs, it has its boulders, and they are a part of life.
Align In-tuition with truth
When intuition is aligned to the ego, it helps us to feel for not where the obstacles so that I can find a supposedly right path, which is impossible.
- We can use our intuition to feel for how to increase the flow of the river?
- Because the truth and the river can flow around obstacles.
But if we hold back our river, our flow out of fear.
When we are tuned in to our deepest truth, we are tuned into that which opens the flow instead of closes it.
Let’s go back to the troll and the bridge.
So when we face our metaphorical bridges of life, we need to understand and to remember that there is no right path in life. As in there’s no pain-free path.
So how do we know if it’s a rope or a snake?
How do we know whether our fear is directing us?
My best, most practical, simple final instruction here is you’ve got to get equal to your trolls.
Get equal to your trolls, your perceived or imagined fears.
So tune in and imagine that as you cross the bridge you face the troll and then show yourself what is still true that matters.
Tune in intuitively to the deepest truth, to find what can never be touched.
The deepest truth that can never be affected by life, that life can never take from you.
Tune in to the truth that you are always love itself. That you are the peace.
Once you feel more equal and neutralise your fear, then you can use your intuition more accurately to feel for whether this path belongs to your river, to your truth or not.
Use your intuition to tune-in and find the truth, then show yourself the truth that you are equal to all trolls.
That should help to neutralize the fear in your body so that you can see without fear inter-fear-ring.
I’m intentionally spelling interfering wrong because fear interferes with our intuition.
It’s like static on a radio station that we cannot hear clearly.
The moment you feel more neutral, you can check with your intuition.
And what you’re listening for is where the river wants to flow, knowing that the river is not afraid.
Tune-in, use your intuition to feel for where your natural true movement wants to flow to, your intuitive, spontaneous, natural movement.
Knowing that there are obstacles, knowing that there is no right path, knowing that you are equal to the trolls.